Alamogordo NM
6-03-2023 1:03pm

PERSPECTIVES - a regular weekend feature

Dear Liliane

How can I quit my bad habits?

Think of bad habits (things you do that are harmful in some way) as a thought form that is zinging around the planet looking for a home. For lots of reasons, we take things on. We’re not born doing them! We are exposed to them when we’re growing up, when we’re moving out into the world, when we choose a mate… And just because the habit is looking for a home, doesn’t mean you have to give it one! But we all do it from time to time. The trick is, to see it for what it is - an energy field that is not the Truth of who you are.

We tend to let our egoic minds run the show. But the egoic mind makes short term and short sighted decisions in its attempt to protect the ‘small self’, so in this way we create habits and behaviours that harm us.

A good example is addiction. Initially, use of intoxicants makes us feel better. Drugs take away pain and discontent, and the egoic mind has a field day. ‘Wow! Look how much better we feel! This was a really good idea!’ But these substances aren’t good for mind, body or soul. Eventually they take over and wreak havoc. Hmmm… it seemed like such a good idea at the time…

We beat ourselves up for having bad habits, but that self-abuse just feeds the habit. So clearly pounding on ourselves isn’t the way to freedom!

There is a Force throughout all space and time that is expressing and experiencing Itself in and as and through all of Life. Some may call this God. Some call it Love. I like to call it Goodness. Doesn’t matter really. All we have to know is that there is a force-field of realignment that we can tap into any time we’re ready.

So here’s an image that might help. Pretend there are 2 hooks on the wall. On one you can hang everything that comes from Goodness; Beauty, Love, Peace, Truth, Principle, Grace, Gratitude, Compassion… These things are Real in Nature and they are Unchanging. So hook number One is for things that are Real - things that don’t change.

Hook number Two is for everything else - fear, self-loathing, judgement, anger, addiction, jealousy, resentment, prejudice… These things fluctuate with the whim of the egoic mind and they are not the Truth of who we are!

Here’s a cool thing - the body has a wonderful built in sensory mechanism to help guide us. If we’re paying attention to how we’re feeling, it will tell us which hook things belong on. If we’re feeling something is weighing us down, we need to hang something on a hook! But what’s good for us tends to be accompanied by a feeling of buoyancy.

So how do you get rid of bad habits? First, recognize they are not Real. Then all you have to do is make a decision. Which hook do I hang this on? Once the decision is made, then put your stuff on a hook every time it shows up. 'Are you helping me? No? It’s hook number two for you!' And if you don’t feel like you have the self-love right now to change those habits, then fake it til you make it. Do it for your partner, your friend, your dog… whatever. Just take one step and see where it goes.

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Got a question that needs a new pair of eyes?
Email: lily@domesnatureretreat.com

Liliane is co-owner of the Domes Nature Retreat https://www.facebook.com/domesnatureretreat/
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She is a regular contributor to Alamogordo Town News

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She can be heard each weekend on Krazy KALHRadio.org 95.1 FM https://station.voscast.com/5b01bba90dce3

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